To clarify, I was saying that when parents see their kids primarily as a negative effect on their lives, it often turns out poorly for the kid. Specific examples of what I mean by poorly:
Child commits Suicide
Child forcibly removed from parents by the government
Child classified as juvenile delinquent
On the other hand I have seen it work out okay in exactly one case, so there is a clear counterexample. Mentioning the details of that was likely a mistake, as you point out.
Child commits Suicide
Child forcibly removed from parents by the government
Child classified as juvenile delinquent
On the other hand I have seen it work out okay in exactly one case, so there is a clear counterexample. Mentioning the details of that was likely a mistake, as you point out.